Chatper Eleven: The List

28 April 2008 at 10:00 pm | Posted in Guest List, Insights | Leave a comment
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[She Writes]

Lately, one topic seems to be bothering a lot of soon-to-weds out there – GUESTS.  That’s right.  The people who had the least (or even nothing at all) to do for the entire wedding can bring about the most worries.  Especially in a country where RSVP holds no meaning and the term family extends up to the entire barangay, this is a major dilemma for couples.

There are those who don’t seem to understand the difference between YES and NO.  They say “No,” they will not attend, but will show up on the actual wedding day anyway.

Still others don’t seem to know how to read.  While their invitation is addressed to “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith” along with an escort card that clearly states “We have reserved 2 seats for you,” they bring along little Jack and Jane at the reception.  At which point did the Universe decide that 2 is the same as 4?

The problem may even stem from the family.  There are lucky brides and grooms with level-headed parents who understand and help the situation by sticking to the set number of guests they can invite or by offering a bit of monetary support.   These are, of course, quite rare.  Most are blessed with crazy families who not only refuse to stick to inviting 50 people, but have the gall to complain that they are given such a small number of people to invite.

Because many people don’t really know what it’s like to plan a wedding, they also have no idea how even just one person can spell all the difference in the set-up, seating, and expenses.

A number of couples tried to remedy the situation by posting a sort of “Wedding Guest Etiquette” on their wedsites to subtly (or not-so-subtly) let their guests know how the heck they should behave.  This might do the trick, but not everyone will likely visit the wedsite.  Others said that they did the opposite of word-of-mouth, and requested their families NOT to tell anybody about the wedding so they won’t be pressured to invite people just because they know about it.

In our case, my fiance and I have already drafted a guest list, which I should have shown our parents a couple months ago (so I’m blogging about it to remind myself).  We’re sure that our parents will be adding to the list.  Our set number of guests is pretty flexible although we already have a ceiling number in our minds.  Once this “quota” is reached, that’s when we will review the list and discuss who we can cut from it.  This way, we’re hoping that the dilemma at least won’t come from the family.

For shameless guests who refuse to be nice and insist on adding to everyone’s stress, we will probably send them this reply card:

Reply Card

And hope they take the hint.  Maybe we’ll also include the following:

___ Will say yes but won’t show because something important will come up that day

___ Will decline to respond but attend and bring five other people you don’t know

But seriously, I’ve surrendered to the fact that there’s really no way of being in complete of control of the details – whether it’s the guest list, the food, or the weather.  So I plan to just enjoy the whole planning process – the fun and stress of it all,  and try to stay light-hearted about the problems because forty or fifty years down the road, the only person I’ll probably remember attending our wedding is the man who said “I Do” with me.

Chapter Ten: Fourth Power Weddings and A Primer

23 April 2008 at 6:59 am | Posted in Adventures, Bridal Events | 2 Comments
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[She Writes]

The bridal event for this weekend is Power Weddings Year 4, a fair organized by Angel’s Wink.   Yesterday, I wasn’t able to leave work until about half past six (My job requires me to be at work all day from Monday to Saturday).  I knew that the fair was supposed to close by eight.  I had just a little over an hour to get to Makati coming from Ortigas, and browse the entire fair.

I was having a mini debate in my head if I would even be able to make it.  The overeager-bride-to-be in me overpowered all logical thinking, so I threw reasoning out the window and decided to go with the flow.

Lo and behold, I got to Rockwell in less than 15 minutes.  Entering the tent, I realized why their tag line said “Coziest Bridal Fair.”  The venue was pretty small, and I was surprised that it was able to hold supposedly over 70 exhibitors in there.  And because it was already pretty late, there were already several stalls that were left unmanned.  But it was still definitely worth it, if only for two things, which I encountered upon entry and upon exit – The W@W Wedding Primer and the Limo Beetle.

UPON ENTRY: The new w@w Wedding Primer is awesome!  I have two editions of the Primer (2003 – Maiden Issue and 2007).  The designs of the two were very similar, with the cartoonish graphics and pastel colors.  But the latest Primer is so different.  The cover design is edgy with a platinum-hued cover, less graphics, and more impact.

The W@W Wedding Primer 2008

It was the thickest Primer by far, and had so much information in it about everything Weddings! 

The latest W@W Wedding Primer

Dorky as it may sound, it was cool to see that the response I sent in was actually included, and that I sort of knew the other people who were quoted in the book as well.

W@W Quote

UPON EXIT: Back in the day, any white Mercedes Benz can be considered a wedding car.  But these days, that simply won’t do.  Many couples are now exploring other automobile options that will add to the feel of their wedding – whether it’s traditional, vintage, or unconventional.

There are a number of couples opting for a cute white VW Beetle although not many companies have this kind of car meant to be rented for weddings or such other occasions.  But last night, I found the ultimate bridal car for Beetle fanatics – the LIMO BEETLE.

 Limo Beetle!

You read that right – a LIMO BEETLE.  Restored and customized by Orlina Atelier, the Stretched VW Beetle is a 1973 model, with leather trimmed interiors, power window limo partition, dual airconditioning, 10″ DVD Player, and Blaupunkt surround-sound system.  (The photo above isn’t the actual Limo Beetle being offered for hire by Orlina Atelier, but it was the closest I could get to it.)  Orlina’s Limo Beetle was featured in Inquirer’s Lifestyle pages, and has been part of major Trans Sport Shows in the country.

For interested Beetle Fanatics, you may contact Naesa Orlina at 63918.6424562, NingNing Orlina at 63917.8805108, Tel: 632.781.5918, Fax: 632.749.6439, Email: orlina@pldtdsl.net.

For a complete list of wedding-related events such as fairs and expos, please refer to the Events Page/Tab of Storybook Wedding.

Chapter Nine: Encounters with Caterers

18 April 2008 at 5:21 pm | Posted in Caterer | Leave a comment
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[She Writes]

Priorities.  These vary among couples.  A good number are willing to shell out a significant amount for fabulous photos.  Some would rather spend more on the honeymoon than the wedding.  Still others would never let music fade into the background.  But if there is one element that I daresay is a priority for ALL couples, it’s the FOOD.

People may not notice the intricate beading on the bride’s gown, or the variety of flowers the couple painstakingly selected with the florist, or the reception design and set-up that took the stylist months of planning and research.  But they will definitely have something to say about the food.  If they were delectably satisfied, they will be raving about it for months.  Otherwise, the untouched food on their plates and the way they subtly left the reception much too early will silently yell out the discontentment of the guests.  Feed the guests well and they will stay on until the wee hours of the morning if need be.

So we knew the selection process for the caterers required more time.  And with over a year and a half left for planning, we definitely had plenty of that.

Juan Carlo the Caterer | 78 C. Cenacle Drive, Sanville Subdivision, Quezon City | 632.929.3674 | http://www.juancarlothecaterer.com

As major sponsors of the Wedding Expo Philippines 12th Edition, three catering companies lorded over a quarter part of the massive venue for free food tasting.  They showcased not only their appetizers, entrees, and desserts, but their styling prowess as well, with their elaborate set-up and beautiful blooms.  One of these caterers were Juan Carlo the Caterer.

Juan Carlo the Caterer

Along with my fiance’s mother and little sister, we took to their buffet table mid-afternoon for a late-lunch-slash-snack.  Because we had lunch before heading to the Expo, we weren’t exactly very hungry, but the food seemed to whet our appetites.  Almost everything was delicious, from the entrees to the desserts, even down to their fragrant water, which had a hint of pandan.  My fiance’s younger sister took seconds of several dishes.  My fiance’s mom, who was a cook herself, was quite satisfied as well.

Juan Carlo the Caterer Entree

Juan Carlo the Caterer Dessert

The set-up was pretty, and the flowers they used were very elegant.

Juan Carlo the Caterer Set Up

Their service was impeccable and efficient, with a friendly and polite crew.  Mark Abrea, who I met at a bridal fair in Megamall, took care of us, making sure that we were sufficiently attended to.

Josiah’s Catering | www.josiahcatering.com | http://josiahcatering.multiply.com

My parents got Josiah’s Catering for my 18th Birthday Celebration.  The food was fabuluous, including the wide selection of desserts and the entire section for Japanese food such as Makis, Sushis and Sashimis.

 

Josiah\'s Catering Old Logo

A lot can definitely change in six years.

Josiah\'s Catering New Logo

We sampled the food of Josiah’s during the Wedding Expo Philippines 12th Edition.   We were actually pretty hungry when we got to their area.  After hours of roaming the stalls in the Expo, we seized the opportunity for an early dinner.  I showed them my SMS invitation for food-tasting, and we were ushered to the buffet station.

Even after settling in our seats, none of the account managers approached us, not even the one who contacted me in the first place.   The service crew weren’t as responsive as expected.  It took several requests before we were served water.  And they weren’t very friendly either.  We didn’t feel taken care of as compared to our experience with Juan Carlo the Caterer, which even my fiance’s mom noticed. 

Josiah\'s Catering Set Up 02

This all wouldn’t have mattered if their food more than made up for their service (or lack thereof).  But it didn’t.

Let’s just say that we had plenty of food on our plates left untouched.   Most of their dishes were quite bland, while their soup, which might have been their best bet, was ironically, a little too salty.  Add to that, the entrees were already cold and dry.  It might have already been late in the afternoon, but their warmers should have been able to keep the food, well, warm at the very least.

Josiah\'s Catering Set Up 01

My parents weren’t surprised by this verdict.  They had recently attended several weddings with Josiah’s as caterer, and their feedback mirrored ours.

Their set-up was decent, although it wasn’t spectacular.  But our primary concern was the food, so this wasn’t really an issue anymore.

I actually heard positive things about Josiah’s from a couple of suppliers I encountered, saying that their service is excellent and that they were very professional.  I suppose they just weren’t the caterer for us.

K by Cunanan | 632.711.0940 | 632.711.0952 | www.kbycunanancatering.com

Kaye Cunanan, and her partner, Kar Reyes, are charming and delightful.  The postive feedback about them are overwhelming, and I am certain that a major factor here is because of their personalized client service, and fresh ideas.

K by Cunanan

Their set-up precisely reflected their image and personality – youthful but elegant, creative but timeless.  I had my heart set on booking them, but my fiance, being the sensible man that he is, reminded me that it is important that we taste their food first.  So we did.  After meeting Kar at the Wedding Expo Philippines 12th Edition, we set the date for the food-tasting at Kaye’s house.

K by Cunanan Catering Set Up 01

K by Cunanan is innovative not only when it comes to their styling, but also in their dishes as well.  This can come out both positive and negative.  I personally like trying dishes with an odd mix of flavors, which tickle my taste buds.  But that’s me.  I admit I have an unorthodox taste when it comes to food.  I enjoy tofu and mushrooms, and can enjoy a combination of sinigang with corned beef.  So I actually can’t trust even myself when it comes to food, so I usually bring others along who have more discriminating tastes.

For the food-tasting with K by Cunanan, I requested my parents and my fiance’s Mom and younger brother to come along.  It was an unexpectedly long drive, as Kaye’s house was a little too far into their village but it wasn’t a problem.  Kaye was very nice and accommodating.  Before the soup was served, she talked us through different ideas for the reception and gave us tips on seating the guests.  The food-tasting also turned out to be a nice bonding experience among our parents, as we spent over two hours in Kaye’s house.  After, we bid goodbye and she sent us off with a smile.

K by Cunanan Catering Set Up 02 

While she was a delight to talk to and her ideas were wonderful, my parents and my fiance’s mom weren’t completely satisfied with the food.  They felt the dishes were a either a little too ordinary or they were a little too different for their taste.  My fiance’s younger brother and I actually thought the food was excellent, precisely because it was different.  But I do have to consider other guests’ expectations.  It’s always best to stay on the safe side.

I read one blog where they remarked that K by Cunanan’s food is a hit among the younger crowd, but it wasn’t as well-received among the older ones.  I suppose this was applicable as well to my experience.  And while I would have loved to work with Kaye and Kar, I suppose, again, that they were not the caterer for us.

To be continued:  VS&F Catering.  Hizon’s Catering.


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